||I hear people constantly complaining of not being able to find love, and when they do it is too much, too involving, too everything. WTH. They worry about losing themselves and their lives to another person. But what they really fear is finding what they want, free of mundane concerns, the day to day worries and the flotsam and jetsam of this material life. This is love, people. It changes, it grows deeper, and like a deep aquifer flows tirelessly through the hardest impedance's when the flash and fury has worn off. It matures like a fine wine, and becomes stronger the more experience the two of you share. As you grow you share it with your partner. How can you grow apart if your love is unconditional and passionate? I have fallen in love with each of my partners, in spite of how the relationships turned out, and stayed in love the whole time, 18 year and 4 years respectively, and beyond. I have to fight now not to feel it unbridled. Is this really a negative? Yes it is painful, but it is also beyond the moon in joy. I would rather suffer the pain of losing those relationships rather than to have a mere partnership. No love is wrong, so I do enjoy and thrive on any relationship, but I would never turn down the chance to fall in love and emerse myself in that passion for that person, while keeping an honest, trusting and respectful relationship.
I disagree completely with this notion of keeping others at arms length. We are alone, inside ourselves, for our lives. Know the joy of bonding with another to share their lives, their passions and griefs. Fall in love, and stay in love.... it may not last for one reason or another as a relationship, but it will forever burn in your heart. It is worth the pain.